There is nothing wrong with you!🤍

Let me begin there, because I know how easy it is to believe otherwise in a world that often feels too loud, too fast, too overwhelming for your tender system.

Maybe you were the child who cried easily, who noticed thi…

We often forget the profound power that lives in our capacity to choose.

To choose healing over hiding.

To choose intimacy over isolation.

To choose communication over withdrawal.

To choose the discomfort of growth over the comfort of the familiar.

Ev…

She didn’t want to be strong all the time.

She just didn’t know any other way to survive.

Strength became her armor. Hyper-independence, her shield.

Not because she wanted to prove she could do it all, but because too many times, no one came when she nee…

The degree to which we can grow is deeply connected to how much truth we are willing to accept about ourselves without running away.

The uncomfortable truths. The parts we hide, deny, justify, or cover with distractions. The patterns that keep repeating…

We often hear that healing is an inside job, and it is. But it’s also true that we heal in the presence of another.

We heal when we are seen in our truth, without judgment. When someone sits with us, not to fix us, not to change us, but to be with us, …

We don’t have to fix ourselves first, prove ourselves ready, or carry the entire burden alone before we allow ourselves to be loved.

We heal in love.

We heal in the presence of those who are safe enough, steady enough, and willing enough to walk with …

Your nervous system doesn’t heal just because you logically understand your past. It heals when your body stops living like it’s still in it.

This is one of the most important truths in trauma healing.

You can read every book, attend therapy, and intell…

Healing is not a private, isolated journey. It ripples into every relationship you have.

When you choose not to look at your wounds, your patterns, your stories, you carry them into how you love, parent, communicate, and set boundaries. Unspoken pain do…

So many of us were taught to escape what we feel. We learned to numb it with food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, sex, work, scrolling, busyness, or perfectionism. We learned to outrun our pain because we didn’t feel safe to be with it.

But the truth is: hea…

That time has come. The moment when:

You stop pointing the finger.

And you start taking radical responsibility.

And you realize:

This isn’t about them making me feel safe,

this is about me remembering how to feel safe within myself.

You meet your own un…

Heal so you can hear and see what’s being said and shown without the filter of your wounds.

Because the truth is, unhealed wounds distort reality.

They make us hear “I need space” as “You’re not lovable.”

They make us see silence as rejection.

They make …

There is a reason we fall in love with people we need to rescue.

Many of us grew up learning that love means taking care of others’ needs while neglecting our own. We became attuned to others’ pain before we could even name our own. We learned to earn co…

Today I asked my body what she needed.

Which, for many of us, is a big deal.

Especially for those of us who grew up learning that our worth depended on how small we could become, how quiet we could stay, how well we could mold ourselves to what others …

There’s a love language that we rarely talk about.

One that doesn’t sound romantic at first,

but might just be the most sacred of them all.

It’s the love language that says:

“I want to understand myself, so I can understand you better.”

“I want to meet y…

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They are the quiet warriors who decide that the pain ends with them. Who choose to face what others deny, to feel what others numb, to love themselves in the places where they were abandoned.

They take their wounds and turn them into wisdom. They trans…

As a therapist and as a woman who has lived many seasons of surviving, healing, and overgiving, I want to remind you:

Rest is not laziness.

Slow steps are not failure.

Quiet days are not wasted days.

We live in a world that praises hustle, busyness, a…

Some women don’t get to live soft lives. They get handed chaos, grief, betrayal, and they have to learn how to bloom anyway.

And many of these women become the ones who hold everyone else together when their world falls apart. They are the helpers, the f…

Anything that annoys you, triggers you, or tests your patience is an invitation to look within. It’s not just about enduring discomfort but about noticing the parts of you that still need gentleness, understanding, and boundaries.

Anyone who abandons you…

When the wall is big, the sensitive is deep.

It’s something I see over and over again, both in the people I work with in therapy, and in my own becoming:

The bigger the protective wall, the softer the heart it hides.

The tough exterior, the sharp words, …

The child who grew up feeling unseen learns to pour into others, hoping that, one day, someone will pour into them.

They become the caretaker. The fixer. The giver who loves without limits, often without boundaries, often without being truly seen themse…

As a therapist I hear people often asking: “Why do I keep doing this to myself?”

The truth is, self-sabotage isn’t about weakness or lack of willpower. It’s a protective mechanism rooted in fear, uncertainty, and the deep need to feel in control.

When yo…

If you sacrifice yourself as a parent, you will make your child feel like a burden.

This is hard to hear, but it’s true.

When you give everything and leave nothing for yourself, your child feels it. They sense your exhaustion, your resentment, your sil…

Being comfortable with not being understood, with not needing to endlessly explain yourself or your part of the story because you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone, will change the way you will be in relationships.

So many of us grew up feeling we …

When you don’t have a voice, you have to scream somehow.

And the body knows how to scream.

It screams through tension in your jaw, words you never said.

It tightens in your throat, the truth you swallowed.

It aches in your chest, the grief you weren’t …

A woman who embraces her freedom is unstoppable.

She is no longer waiting for permission.

Not from a man. Not from society. Not even from her past self.

She knows now that her worth isn’t measured by how well she fits into others’ expectations, how muc…

Are you tired of feeling like your emotions are too much for others to handle?

If you have an anxious attachment style, you may know this pattern intimately:

You crave closeness, but fear rejection.

You long to feel safe with someone, but question your…

It’s not just exhausting, it’s lonely.

People see your strength and assume you’re always okay. They admire how composed, how capable, how grounded you are. They come to you with their stories, their chaos, their unmet needs. And because you are the str…

She’s not asking for perfection. She’s asking for peace.

A woman who has been hurt doesn’t step into love looking for fairy tales.

She’s looking for safety.

Not the kind of safety that pretends, performs, or promises what it can’t hold. But the kind that…

In your healing journey, it is not just about finding release, it’s also about meeting the dark.

The parts of you you’ve tried to hide, dismiss, or deny.

The emotions that made others uncomfortable, so you buried them.

The anger that was called “too much…

The Mother Wound: When a Girl Has to Grow Up Too Soon

There’s a particular kind of wound that doesn’t always leave visible scars but lives deep in the bones, in the nervous system, and in the emotional landscape of a woman’s life.

It’s the wound of the…

I once read something that stayed with me ever since: 

“Mathematically, perfection exists only at the zero point - the “God point.” In order for anything to exist in this world, it must be slightly off. In essence, perfection, in its purest form, is non…

“If I don’t meet myself first, I will only seek someone to carry what I refuse to hold.”

There comes a point on the healing path when we are called to pause. To not look outward for relief, but to turn inward with honesty and courage.

To meet the parts…

You can’t go looking for love as if it’s something lost that needs to be found.

Because love isn’t a destination.

Love finds you.

It arrives when it’s time, not when you feel ready, not when life looks polished and perfect, but when your soul is ripe fo…

More than “Why do I attract this situation?” I ask myself “Why am I attracted to this situation?”

Not to blame myself. It isn't a whisper of shame. Or a hidden self-accusation. Even though it can sound like this.

With time, healing, and courage, I’ve l…

There are seasons in life when everything feels like too much. When the noise of the world, the ache of the past, and the weight of unspoken emotions converge into a storm that feels endless.

I’ve lived through many of these storms.

Some quiet and invisi…

It often begins mid-sentence, in a conversation she’s had far too many times.

Different day. Same feeling. Different tone. Same lack of change.

I’ve witnessed this in women I sit with in therapy.

I’ve lived it in my own story.

This quiet moment, this sac…

There comes a time in a woman’s life when she no longer seeks validation through noise or connection at all costs. A time when she stops explaining, performing, or proving, and starts protecting the most tender parts of herself.

She chooses solitude.

Not…

Your nervous system doesn’t need fixing, it needs safety.

As a therapist, a mother, and a woman committed to my own healing journey, I return to this truth over and over again: we don’t heal because someone gives us the right answers. We heal when we fe…

As a therapist, I’ve witnessed this truth over and over again, in the lives of the people I sit with, and in my own sto

We often come to therapy hoping to “fix” what feels broken. But healing isn’t about fixing. It’s about returning, to the places with…

There are many healing paths available to us.

And all of them can be powerful, supportive, and deeply meaningful.

But when people ask me why therapy, especially this kind of therapy with Compassionate Inquiry approach, this is what I often say:

Becaus…

“Therapy is expensive.

Healing takes time. It’s not comfortable.” they say.

True.

But also, living with unhealed wounds is more expensive.

It can cost you years of your life, your deepest relationships, your sense of peace, your health, your capacity to …

For all those who are on their healing journey or are thinking to start this process, I have something to share with you. I think it can be helpful:

Healing can be quiet and slow.

It’s not always loud or visible.

Sometimes it looks like softening your s…

We need to heal because we are not meant to live our lives in survival mode.

Unhealed pain doesn’t disappear, it gets stored in our bodies, in our nervous systems, in the ways we relate to others and to ourselves. It shows up in our relationships, our p…

I often speak about healing. Not just because it’s my work, sacred, soulful, and done with deep devotion, but because it’s the path I’ve chosen to walk myself.

Healing is not something I simply offer. It’s something I live.

And I know, intimately, how …

And grief doesn't have shortcuts. There is no easy fix for grief. Just that way where your heart breaks into a thousand pieces and then with time, patience, tears, care and support, you put them back together. In another shape, never the same, never perf…

As a mother and a therapist, I’ve come to understand that one of the most sacred things we can do for our children is to walk beside them when they are grieving. Whether it’s the loss of a grandparent, a friend who moved away, or broke the relationship w…

As a mother, I’ve come to understand that the emotional safety I provide my daughter is the foundation she will build her inner world upon.

When I became aware of this responsibility I felt such a pressure on myself. I was anxious and triggered so many t…

When a child grows up in a home where emotional neglect, mental illness, addiction, or unprocessed trauma shape the environment, that child learns to survive by adapting in ways that feel like the only option.

They learn to walk on eggshells, reading the…

Trauma and emotional wounds are experiences that leave a lasting imprint on the mind and body.

Trauma can arise from events that overwhelm our ability to cope, such as abuse, neglect, loss, or even subtle, repeated instances of feeling unseen or unvalue…

There was a time I thought healing would feel like lightness. That once I “did the work,” I’d arrive somewhere soft and serene — free of pain, free of doubt. But healing, I’ve learned, is not a destination. It’s a constant becoming. A spiral path that ta…

I see women coming into their power, becoming more courageous, more resilient, and more true to their beliefs.

In their lives, those around them, especially their partners, see their growth as a threat or a beautiful transformation.

The change is about…

We women…

We carry so much on our shoulders: responsibility for our children, worries, fears for us, for them. Duties… lots of them are hanging on our shoulders as baggage we are so used to carrying that we even don't question it anymore.

We just keep …

Beautiful woman, I just want you to hear this:

You deserve to be in relationships that bring out the softness in you, not the survival in you!

You deserve to spend your precious time in this life in environments that make you feel safe enough to be abl…

My dear one, I am writing this for you! A kind reminder.
You were never meant to follow the crowd. You were never meant to be liked by everyone.
You don't have to spend your energy and aliveness to please others in order to feel seen and loved.
You just don…

Oftentimes the expectations of the world, culture, and men ask for them to be in a certain way.

I have heard many women around me in my life and my work telling me that it is not safe for them to ask for what they want. They said they have specific roles…

Do your inner work before you start a relationship

Partnership is the most triggering space for your unhealed wounds.

Do your inner work when you face conflict

That’s the way to finding a solution for your anger.

Do your inner work when sadness comes …

Healing doesn’t mean to cure.

Healing is the journey of becoming whole, the journey to wholeness, to remember who you are.

When we heal, we are engaged in recovering our lost parts of self, not trying to change them to be better.

Healing begins with …

Life on earth is complicated now and technology has made our lives easier yet more restricted at the same time. We no longer spend time under the open sky. We spend less time alone, in silence. We are constantly being called to pay attention to our sched…

Vulnerability is power and wisdom. 

It’s the quiet wisdom of your deepest, most truthful self.

Vulnerability is an act of courage, dear one, and a beautiful present for all people around you. It’s not a sign of weakness as you were taught.

For me, speaki…

What is needed to be able to let go, to release?

Nothing can be released by fighting it.

To heal our hearts we need to let go of fear, resentment, and anger, and embrace compassion and gratitude!

Fear hurts. Only Love heals.

“To release something wit…

Your wounds make the best teachers who teach you how to find courage in your fears and strength in your vulnerability.

Don’t be afraid of being hurt. Stay with your pain and let it heal your heart.

It’s the bravest thing to do when you feel suffering.

Healing happens when you are willing to face the discomfort.

To face what hurts deep inside.

To make a safe space in your heart for all that hurts, to be met with care, love, and compassion.

What if your intention for the next year is to meet yourself…

Posted on January 12, 2023.

It’s a busy world. You fold the laundry while keeping one eye on the kids and another on the television. You plan your day while listening to the radio and commuting to work and then plan your weekend. But in the rush to acco…