Being comfortable with not being understood, with not needing to endlessly explain yourself or your part of the story because you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone, will change the way you will be in relationships.

So many of us grew up feeling we had to explain ourselves to survive.

To prove our worth.

To justify our feelings.

To defend why we hurt.

To explain why we needed what we needed.

We learned to over-explain because being misunderstood felt unsafe, and because we believed that if others could just understand us, they would love us, stay, or finally see us.

But often, that need to explain is a survival strategy rooted in the fear of rejection, disconnection, or abandonment. It is a pattern that keeps us small, keeps us anxious, keeps us waiting for others to give us permission to trust ourselves.

Imagine what would happen in your relationships if you could let go of the need to be fully understood by everyone.

Imagine letting your truth stand, even if others don’t get it.

Imagine not trying to control how others perceive you.

Imagine knowing your worth, even if others question it.

This does not mean shutting down or building walls. It means choosing your peace over proving yourself. It means staying grounded in your truth without forcing others to see it the way you do.

It means allowing others to have their perceptions while you honor your own.

It means being in relationships from a place of wholeness, not from a place of needing constant validation.

When you stop over-explaining, you reclaim energy, self-trust, and your right to simply be. It is one of the most liberating shifts you can make on your healing journey.

Reflection invitation:

Where in your life do you find yourself over-explaining or trying to prove your worth? 

What would it look like to trust yourself enough to let go of that need?

With warmth,🤍

Aniela