Raising children while healing your own past is one of the most courageous and quietly revolutionary acts of our generation.

It’s something our parents didn’t have the language, support, or emotional tools to attempt. Yet here you are - choosing to grow while you guide a small human who depends on your presence, your softness, your steadiness.

As a mother of sensitive children, on my own healing journey, facing my own struggles, and as a therapist who sits every day with parents doing this work, I want to say this:

When you feel it is too hard, remember: You are not failing.

You are not “too emotional.”

You are doing something profoundly hard.

And profoundly important.

You are now more aware. You care to be that parent that pays attention, is present, knows how to regulate their emotions and be there to really see and hear the child in front of them. And this is huge.

When you choose calm instead of yelling - even if your heart is racing and your childhood wounds are screaming for old reactions… that is healing.

When you pause before repeating the pattern you grew up with… that is rewiring.

When you repair instead of shutting down… that is emotional leadership. You open a new way for you, your child and generations after.

In those moments, you are not just shaping your child.

You are reparenting yourself.

You are teaching your nervous system something it never received:

that safety can exist here, inside your own body, inside your home.

This is why it feels heavy.

This is why you feel stretched thin between who you were taught to be and who you’re trying to become.

Healing in real time - while parenting - is a double journey.

You carry your own inner child in one hand and your actual child in the other.

And yet, this work matters more than you know.

Because every regulated breath, every gentle boundary, every moment of self-awareness becomes the emotional blueprint your child will one day stand on.

Their capacity for empathy, emotional safety, resilience, and healthy love grows out of the soil you’re tending right now, messy, imperfect, human, real.

You are the bridge.

The place where generational hurt softens.

Where patterns are questioned instead of passed down.

Where emotional safety begins.

And even if you don’t always feel graceful or wise, your willingness to try - to pause, to repair, to do better than what you received - is already changing the trajectory of your family line.

That is what supports me in my work, this vision of a new world, a healthy, heart-centered one, for our children and generations to come.

So what I keep telling myself and want you to remember: 

You don’t have to be the perfect parent to raise a healthy child.

You just need to be a present one.

A reflective one.

A human one.

Show yourself the same compassion you want your child to learn.

Because every moment you offer yourself patience, gentleness, and understanding, you’re teaching your child the powerful truth:

This is what love looks like.

This is what safety feels like.

This is how healing becomes possible.

For all of you parents who try the best to be a healthy space holder for your children, I see you! You are doing an amazing and sacred work. Keep walking this path even when you doubt yourself. Especially when you feel that way. Keep going!

🤍 With warmth and presence,

Aniela