More than “Why do I attract this situation?” I ask myself “Why am I attracted to this situation?”

Not to blame myself. It isn't a whisper of shame. Or a hidden self-accusation. Even though it can sound like this.

With time, healing, and courage, I’ve learned to hear this question differently.

Not as a sentence, but as an invitation.

An invitation into self-discovery.

Into compassion.

Into truth.

Because sometimes the situations that challenge us the most are mirrors.

They reflect not our flaws, but the places within us that are still longing to be seen, healed, and loved.

They aren’t happening to us. They’re happening for us.

To wake us up. To shake us free. To remind us of who we truly are underneath the pain.

And no, it’s not about fault.

It’s not about blame.

It’s about responsibility.

About how we choose to respond.

Because reclaiming our power begins the moment we stop asking, “Who’s to blame?” and start asking, “What can I learn?”

When we own our reality, we stop waiting for someone else to rescue us, and we begin to rescue ourselves.

We say:

Yes, this hurts. And yes, I am willing to feel it.

Yes, this is hard. And yes, I can grow through it.

Yes, I’ve attracted this experience. I was attracted to this situation. Something familiar was calling me. I chose something that was known, familiar. 

And yes, I am now choosing something different.

This is how transformation begins.

Empowerment is not escaping reality, it’s facing it. With open eyes and a compassionate heart.

And as we shift, what we’re drawn to begins to shift as well.

We stop seeking out pain and start moving toward peace.

We stop repeating old stories and start writing new ones.

This is The Journey.

From pain to presence.

From self-abandonment to self-ownership.

From survival to soul expansion.

Why are you attracted to this situation?

Maybe it’s not punishment.

Maybe it’s your awakening.

With love and presence,🤍

Aniela

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