You can only truly see how things were from a distance.
Not in the middle of the moment.
Not when you’re lost in the emotion, entangled in the story, wrapped in your own perception,or theirs.
In the heart of the experience, everything feels blurred.
You’re in survival mode. In different ways.
Reacting. Projecting. Hoping.
You’re trying to make sense of a world that doesn’t yet make sense.
Perspective isn’t possible when you’re in the storm.
Clarity comes only later, when the winds have settled, when your heart is no longer grasping, when the silence teaches you what the noise never could.
And with that distance, you begin to understand:
Why things unfolded the way they did.
Why you stayed when you should have left.
Or why left when you could have stayed.
Why you fought so hard. Or not enough.
Why you were silent when you should’ve spoken.
Or why you said words you could not take back.
Why you gave too much, or not enough.
Why you didn’t see what was right in front of your eyes, or why you saw it and still couldn’t walk away.
You begin to make peace with the version of you who didn’t know better.
And with the version of them who couldn’t show up any other way.
Eventually, the bigger picture begins to form.
You can trace the threads backward and see how it all fits now.
Not perfectly. Not painlessly.
But truthfully.
Even the hard things, the ones that still ache when you touch the memory,
they shaped you.
They carved deeper understanding.
They broke your illusions.
They brought you closer to yourself.
It doesn’t mean you had to like what happened.
It doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.
Some wounds remain tender even after the healing.
But time, and space, and honesty…
They reveal that maybe all of it happened for you, not to you.
And when you realize that, everything begins to shift.
May the distance bring you wisdom.
May the ache soften into clarity.
May the pain no longer define you, but refine you.
And may you hold your past not with shame,
but with reverence,
for the becoming it shaped in you.
You see more now.
And that seeing is your freedom.
Sending you love,🤍
Aniela
www.MindfulTherapist.us
#healingjourney
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