When the wall is big, the sensitive is deep.
When the wall is big, the sensitive is deep.
It’s something I see over and over again, both in the people I work with in therapy, and in my own becoming:
The bigger the protective wall, the softer the heart it hides.
The tough exterior, the sharp words, the distance, the “I don’t need anyone” stance… they are rarely about arrogance or coldness. They are shields, carefully crafted over years to protect a deeply feeling, tender, and often wounded heart.
Because when your sensitivity is deep, the world can feel too much.
When your needs were unmet, your pain dismissed, your tenderness shamed, you learn to hide the parts of you that feel. You build walls so high no one can get in, and sometimes, you can’t get out either.
These walls once served you. They kept you safe when you had no other choice. They helped you survive. But they can become prisons that keep out the very connection, love, and tenderness your heart longs for.
I want you to know: your sensitivity is not the problem. It never was.
Your sensitivity is your gift, your compass, your depth. It is the part of you that loves fully, sees deeply, and connects soul to soul.
But it is a part of you that needs safety to flourish, not constant protection.
Healing is not about bulldozing these walls or shaming the parts of you that built them.
It is about creating safety inside you and around you so that your sensitive heart feels it can breathe, feel, and open again.
It is about learning to let love in without losing yourself.
About discerning who has earned access to your tender places.
About honoring your sensitivity while holding boundaries that protect your peace, not your isolation.
If you’ve built walls around your sensitive heart, let this be your gentle reminder:
Your softness is not a weakness. It is your superpower.
It simply needs safety to be expressed, not shame to be silenced.
Reflection invitation:
Where in your life are you hiding behind a wall that once protected you but now keeps you from the connection you long for?
What would it mean to create the safety you need so your sensitive heart can come out of hiding?
With so much love,🤍
Aniela
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