She’s not asking for perfection. She’s asking for peace.

A woman who has been hurt doesn’t step into love looking for fairy tales.

She’s looking for safety.

Not the kind of safety that pretends, performs, or promises what it can’t hold. But the kind that grounds her when her nervous system is activated. The kind that stays when her past resurfaces. The kind that holds space when she can’t yet hold herself.

You see, a woman who has endured heartbreak, she’s not difficult, or dramatic, or hard to love.

She’s learning how to love again while protecting the parts of her that were once forgotten, abandoned, or used.

She might seem guarded. She might question your love. She might pull away when things get real.

But not because she wants to sabotage intimacy. It’s because she knows what it costs to trust the wrong person. Her nervous system remembers what it’s like to lose herself in someone else’s chaos.

She doesn’t need someone to rescue her.

She needs someone who won’t run.

To love her is to meet her with patience, not pressure. With clarity, not confusion. With consistency, not chaos.

She won’t be convinced by grand words. But she will notice your grounded presence. The way you stay. The way you listen. The way you make her feel more herself, not less.

She is testing not you, but the possibility that love can exist without pain.

And when she finally feels safe?

She doesn’t just offer affection.

She offers her truth.

Her depth.

Her devotion.

Her heart, unguarded.

Because when a woman feels safe, she doesn’t love halfway.

She becomes love.

Fully. Fearlessly. Unapologetically.

That’s the transformation. That’s the gift.

That’s what healing makes possible.

With love and care, 🤍

Aniela

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