As a therapist, I’ve witnessed this truth over and over again, in the lives of the people I sit with, and in my own sto

We often come to therapy hoping to “fix” what feels broken. But healing isn’t about fixing. It’s about returning, to the places within us that hurt, not to stay stuck there, but to see them through a new lens. With more clarity, with more compassion. With more of our adult, resourced self present.

The truth that we need to hear is:

We all have inside us the resources we need to heal.

In therapy, we don’t insert anything into you.

We simply clear the way.

We make space.

We uncover.

We listen gently to what was never heard.

We hold the parts that were once too much, too soon, too overwhelming to carry alone.

And in doing so, the body begins to trust again.

The heart begins to soften.

The mind begins to release old loops.

And we return, again and again, to ourselves.

I often remind my clients that healing doesn’t mean you’ll never feel sadness, or fear, or pain again. It means you’ll relate to those feelings differently. You’ll move through them with more grace and less self-blame. You’ll pause and notice: “Ah, here’s that old wound. But I’m not the same person I was last time I felt this.”

One of my clients, a sensitive woman in her 40s, came to therapy feeling stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and emotional overwhelm. Each time she entered a close relationship, old fears would rise: “Will I be abandoned again? Am I too much? Will they see the real me and leave?” We didn’t rush to change these patterns. We slowed down. We listened. We traced the roots of her fear back to her childhood, where she learned to anticipate others’ moods to stay safe. Together, we began to unlearn the need to over-adapt. Over time, she started noticing her needs, setting boundaries, and showing up with more of her authentic voice.

The fear still visits her sometimes, but now, it doesn’t control her.

That’s what healing looks like. Not perfection. Not constant joy.

But more freedom. More truth. More love and compassion for yourself in the process.

If you find yourself circling back to old wounds, it’s okay.

You’re not going backwards.

You’re deepening.

You are not the same you. After you see, you cannot go back!

That’s the spiral of healing.🌀

And you don’t have to walk it alone.

With presence and care,🤍

Aniela